Ive been tagged

Ive been tagged by Cecilia from the Blog My Life Story
( http://myworldinme.blogspot.com/)

The challenge is to tell 7 things about yourself and then challenge 7 people and link to them and the one who challenged you.

7 things about me:

1.I learned arabic 1 year before in alexandria( Egypt). A friend of me helped me alot with the alphabet and the rest i learned from books. Unfortunatly i stopped and forgot a lot of what i knew and so now i have 2 re-new my knowldege

2. I dont like dogs. Well i dont hate them and i like puppys somehow. But in generell i feel strange when i touched grown-up dogs and i prefer them 2 stay a bit away from me. Though i dont fear them.

3. I love taking photos of everything but sadly i cant us them 4 anything :S
I just keep them ( the best of them) and watch them from time 2 time and think how wasted my talent is ;)

4. If i could decide this on my own i would adopt a child when iam older ( around 35 - 40) I always wanted 2 do so to give an orphan a home. But i know am not ready now and i also want 2 have own kids first 2. And im not sure if my husband will ever like this idea.

5. I hate 2 wear jeans. I know its not so islamic but thats not why i dont like it. I just dont like the feeling of jeans on my skin. Alhamdulillah for the comfortables skirts and abayas :)

6. Im obsessed with oaths in milk. I could eat this all day long but my husband wouldnt let me and i guess i would anyway need some more vitamins than this can give me.

7. Im not very social. Its difficult 2 me 2 start friendships. I always miss the ones i have been fiends for so long and who know me so well ( i stopped contact bcz he was male!) So by now am struggling 2 start some new friendships here so i will have a social life again and friends 2 go out with :)

I will challenge the following

* Jaz http://born-confuzed.blogspot.com
* AlabasterMuslim http://alabastermuslim.blogspot.com/
* firdous http://by-firdous.blogspot.com/
* Deppy http://depressedy.blogspot.com/
* Mama Muslimah Baby Muslimah http://ummjayjay.blogspot.com
* Minty'eema http://polygynyinsideout.blogspot.com/
* Sharshura http://sharshurathoughts.blogspot.com/

A great Love story

A Love Story

Love Story of Zainab & Abul 'aas

It is the love story between Zainab bint Muhammad and Abo El’Ass ibn Rabee’; Zainab is the daughter of the Prophet (PBUH) and her cousin Abu El’Ass, is Khadeeja’s nephew. He was one of the nobles of Quraish, and the Prophet loved him.

One day Abu El’Ass went to the Prophet before he had received his mission of Prophet Hood and said: "I want to marry your eldest daughter". So the Prophet replied: "I must ask her first". He went to Zainab and asked her: "Your cousin came to me and he wishes to marry you, do you accept him as your husband?" Her face turned red with bashfulness and she smiled.

So Zainab married Abu El’Ass, the beginning of a great love story. They had two children; "'Ali" and "Omama".

Then a big problem occurred when Muhammad became a Prophet; he became a Prophet while Abu El’Ass was away from Makkah. Abu El’Ass returned to find his wife a Muslim. When he first came back, his wife said "I have great news for you". He stood up and left her. Zainab was surprised and followed him as she said, "My father became a Prophet and I have become a Muslim". He replied, "Why didn't you tell me first?" Hence a big problem began between the two; a problem of religion and belief.

She told him, “I wasn't going to disbelieve in my father and his message, he is not a liar, and he is “The Honest and Trustworthy”. I'm not the only believer; my mother and my sisters became Muslims, my cousin Ali ibn Abi Taleb became a Muslim, your cousin Othman ibn Affan became a Muslim, and your friend Abu Bakr became a Muslim".

He replied, "Well as for me, I don't want people to say ‘he let down his people and his forefathers to please his wife’. And I am not accusing your father of anything". Then he said, "So will you excuse me and understand?" She replied, "Who will excuse and understand you if I don't? But I will stay beside you and help you until you reach the truth" and she kept her word for 20 years.

Abu El’Ass remained an unbeliever, and then came the migration. Zainab went to the Prophet and asked him for the permission to stay with her husband, the Prophet replied, "Stay with your husband and children".

Compare this to the wives that refuse to travel with their husbands to their place of work and prefer to stay with their mothers.

So Zainab stayed in Makkah, until the battle of Badr occurred. Abu El’Ass was to fight in the army of Quraish against the Muslims. For Zainab, it meant that her husband will be fighting her father, a time Zainab had always feared. She kept crying out: “O Allah, I fear one day the sun may rise and my children become orphans or I lose my father”.

So the battle started, and ended in victory for the Muslims. Abu El’Ass was captured by the Muslims, and news of this reached Makkah. Zainab asked, "What did my father do?" They told her, "The Muslims won". So she prayed to Allah, thanking him. Then she asked: "What did my husband do?" they said: "He was captured" so she said" I'll send a payment to release him". She didn't own anything of much value, so she took off her mother's necklace, and sent it with Abu El’Ass's brother to the Prophet.

While the Prophet was sitting, taking payments and releasing captives, he saw Khadeeja’s necklace. He held it up and asked: "Whose payment is this?" They said: “Abu El’Ass ibn Rabee". He cried and said "This is Khadeeja's necklace". Then he stood up and said "People, this man is my in-law, should I release him? And do you accept the return of this necklace to my daughter?" They answered in unison "Yes, messenger of Allah".

The Prophet gave the necklace to Abu El’Ass and said to him: "Tell Zainab not to give away Khadeeja's necklace". Then he said “Abu El’Ass Can we speak privately?" He took him aside and said "Allah has ordered me to separate between a Muslim and a disbeliever, so could you return my daughter to me?" Abu El’Ass agreed.

Zainab stood on the gates of Makkah waiting for the arrival of Abu El’Ass. When he finally came he said, "I am going away". She asked, "Where to?" so he said, "It is not me who is going, it is you. You are going to your father; we must separate because you are a Muslim". She implored him, "Will you become a Muslim and come with me?" But he refused.

So Zainab took her son and daughter and traveled to Madinah, and for 6 years she refused to remarry, hoping that one day Abu El’Ass would come.

After 6 years, Abu El’Ass was traveling in a caravan from Makkah to Syria. During the journey, he was intercepted by some of the Prophet’s companions. He escaped and asked for Zainab’s home. He knocked on her door shortly before the dawn prayer. She opened the door and asked him “Did you become a Muslim?” He whispered “No, I come as a fugitive”. She implored him once more “Can you become a Muslim?” Again his answer was a negative. “Do not worry.” She said, “Welcome my cousin, welcome, the father of Ali and Omama”.

After the Prophet prayed the dawn prayer in congregation with the people, they heard a voice from the back of the mosque “I have freed Abu El’Ass ibn Rabee”.

Zainab had granted Abu El’Ass freedom. The Prophet asked "Have you heard what I heard?" They all said, "Yes, messenger of Allah". Zainab said, "He is my cousin and the father of my children and I have freed him” so the Prophet stood up and said, “O people, I declare that this man was a very good son-in-law, he never broke his promise, and neither did he tell lies. So if you accept I will return his money back and let him go and if you refuse it’s your decision and I will not blame you for it.” The companions agreed, “We will give him his money” so the Prophet said to Zainab" We have freed the one you have freed O Zainab" then he went to her and told her "be generous to him, he is your cousin and the father of your children, but don't let him get near you, he is prohibited for you.” She replied, "Sure, messenger of Allah, I'll do as you say".

She went in and told Abu El’Ass "O Abu El’Ass didn't you miss us at all? Will you be a Muslim and stay with us?" But he refused.

Abu El’Ass then took the money and returned to Makkah. Once he returned he stood up and announced, “O people here is your money, is there anything left?" they replied, "No Abu El’Ass there is nothing left, thanks a lot" so Abu El’Ass said, "I testify that there is no god but Allah, and Mohamed is His Messenger.” ?Then he went back to Madinah and ran to the Prophet as he said, “Dear Prophet, you freed me yesterday, and today I say that I testify there is no god but Allah and you are His messenger.” He asked the Prophet, "Will you give me the permission to go back to Zainab?" The Prophet smiled and said, "Come with me"; he took him to Zainab's house and knocked on her door. The Prophet said, "O Zainab, your cousin came to me and asked if he can return to you". Just like 20 years before, her face turned red with bashfulness and she smiled.

The strange thing is, a year after this incident, Zainab died. Abu El’Ass would cry so profusely that the people saw the Prophet himself weeping and calming him down. Abu El’Ass would say, “By Allah, I can’t stand life anymore without Zainab". He died one year after Zainab’s death.

Being grateful

Am not sure if iam as grateful as iam supposed 2 be 4 all the things iam blessed with, subhanallah. But i feel bad seing a person who got so much things and isnt grateful just as she treats the things in a very bad way.
For example she has a lot of islamic book but they r under a deep layer of dust.
In any way they were under a lot of other useless things. I try 2 treat my books in a good way bcz i know that they r from allah n not everyone is blessed 2 get books like this. Like when i were living in germany it was hard 2 get good islamic books and so i treated them like treasures :)

Of course the same thing goes for anything allah blesses us with like clothes,household items or anything else. We should be thankfull and treat our things good and if we have something we dont need and dont appreciate, maybe we should give it away 2 someone who would appreciate it.
Ill inshallah try my best 2 be more thankfull for what i have by remembering people who cant afford it even they wold want it.
Right now iam thankfull that i got the gift to know how 2 organize things and how 2 speak english :P
So what are u most grateful for?

'If man gets 72 wives in Jannah, then what do women get?'

I found this in a discussion site and found it quite intresting as i alwys wondered what will the females get?
The answer though isnt so specified but after all better than nothing i guess.
Anyone have more information about what we will get?


'If man gets 72 wives in Jannah, then what do women get?'

While a man will get many Hurs in jannah, a women would be made the queen of Jannah. Her beauty will far outshine the beauty of the hurs.

Umme Salamah R.A narrates that she said to Rasûlullah SAW "O Rasûlullah, are the women of this world superior or the hûrs?" He replied, "The women of this world will have superiority over the hûrs just as the outer lining of a garment has superiority over the inner lining."

Umme Salamah R.A then asked, "O Rasûlullah, what is the reason for this?" He answered, "Because they performed salâh, fasted, and worshipped [Allah]. Allah will put light on their faces and silk on their bodies. [The human women] will be fair in complexion and will wear green clothing and yellow jewelry. Their incense-burners will be made of pearls and their combs will be of gold. They will say, 'We are the women who will stay forever and we will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never undergo difficulty. We are the women who will stay and we will never leave. Listen, we are happy women and we will never become sad. Glad tidings to those men for whom we are and who are for us.'" (Tabrânî)

Muhammed ibn Ka'b Al-Qurazi t narrates from a person of the Ansâr (people of Madînah) that Rasûlullah SAW said, "I take the oath of that Being who sent me with the truth, you are not more acquainted with your wives and houses than the people of Jannah. A person of Jannah will come to 72 wives which Allah specially created in Jannah (hûrs) and 2 human wives. The human wives will have virtue over the [hûrs] because they worshipped Allah in the world.'' (Targheeb Vol.4 Pg.534)

This will be the high position of the women of the world in Jannah.

If a women had more than one husband, she will choose which one of them to stay with, and she will choose the one with the best character. As for those women who never married or their husband were mushriks, they will be allowed to marry whichever worldly man, they so wish, in Jannah. Thus every man in Jannah will have 2 wives from the world.

If we have full conviction in Allah's promise that he will fulfil our every desire in Jannah, then instead of worrying about what they will get in jannah, the women should concentrate their endeavours on pleasing Allah and thus getting to Jannah. As for pleasing us in Jannah, That is Allah responsibility, so he will do His and we should do ours. The greatest pleasure in Jannah for men and women will be the very pleasure of Allah. Everything else will be secondary.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Its kickin

The baby keeps kicking me a lot these days. Its nice in generell 2 feel theres something but it just kicks in the wrong time :S
He never does it when iam relaxed in my bed...
Anyway iam thankfull 2 allah that he gave me the chance 2 become a mother inshllah :)

Last night we arrived in the House where 3 of my brothers in law are living. 2 of them r twins n not married while the other 1 is married n has a cute son :)
Now the matter of covering in front of them came back 2 my mind.
I know it haram 2 uncover in front of them and i kept wearing hijab in front of them since the beginning. Also in the few weeks that we lived in the same house with them.
My husband meanwhile tried 2 convience me that its unnessecary 2 do that and that they r family so i shouldnt act like i dont accept them..
Alhamdulilah i could convience him that iam right with this hadith:
‘Uqba b. Amir reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying:

Beware of getting, into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion). A person from the Ansir said: Allah’s Messenger, what about husband’s brother, whereupon he said: Husband’s brother is like death.

{Chapter 8, Book 26, Number 5400: Sahih Muslim}

Pregnancy in Islam

Am quite bored at the moment since my husband works on some papers and i got nothing 2 do i was searching in google about pregnancy in Islam. I didnt find much of intresing information. But i like this link http://www.shariahprogram.ca/women-islam/virtues-of-pregnancy.shtml

And this is what it says there:

· When a woman is pregnant with a child, all the angels will make Istighfar (repentance) on her behalf. Allah SWT will, for each day of her pregnancy, write for her 1000 good deeds and erase from her 1000 bad deeds.

· When a pregnant woman starts to feel the pain from contractions, Allah SWT will write in her records as someone who is doing jihad (spiritual or physical struggle) in His path.

· When a woman becomes pregnant by her husband and he is pleased with her, she obtains the reward of a person engaging in fasting for Allah SWT and a person spending the night in ibaadah (worship).

· A woman from the time of pregnancy until childbirth and weaning the baby, is like the Mujahid (someone fighting in the path of Allah, swa) who is stationed on the frontiers of the Islamic land. If she dies during this period, she dies the death of a shahid (martyr).

· Two raka'at salaat performed by a pregnant woman is better than 80 raka'at salaat performed by a non-pregnant woman.

· A woman who is pregnant gets the reward of fasting during the day and of doing ibaadah (worship) during the nights.

· A woman who gives birth gets the reward of 70 years of salaat (prayer) and fasting. For each vein that feels pain, Allah SWT gives her the reward of one accepted hajj (Pilgrimage to Makkah).

· If the woman dies within 40 days of giving birth, she will die as a shahid (matyr).

(Hadith)......."A woman that dies in her virginity or during her pregnancy or at the time of birth or thereafter (in nifaas) will attain the rank of a martyr"

Nabi(salalaallahu alayhi wassallam) is reported to have also said ".......When her labour pains commence, the inhabitants of the earth and the sky are unaware of the stores of comfort that are prepared for her. When she delivers and breast feeds her child, then she will be granted a reword for every gulp of milk, if she had to remain awake during the night for the sake of the child, she will receive the reword of emancipating seventy slaves in the path of Allah Ta'ala. O Salaamat! Do you know who these women are? They are pious, upright, with a delicate nature yet obedient to their husbands and not ungrateful to them"



[Source: Madrasa In'aamiyyah]

Hijab or no Hijab?

This post inst really about me :)
Am waering hijab since about 4 years and am happy with it. I started 2 wear it about 1 year after i converted and after i already was wearing caps 4 some time.
I just wonder, do u ever tell people if u think their outfit isnt really fitting 2 a hijab? I dont mean like if u dont like their outfit. I simply mean if it islamicly isnt right and the hijab doesnt save it anymore.
For example a girl that wears tight jeans and a tight shirt + a hijab. it doesnt make sense 2 cover when anyone can see the exact shape of ur body, does it?
I know a girl that goes out in a way like that, even not soo extrem, and i wonder if i should talk 2 her. But in the same way im sure she knows...
So what do u do in this kinda situations?

Om Ali?

I actually thought about that if id decide 2 name my Boy Ali am gonna be Om Ali :)
4 any of u who dont know Om Ali, its a sweet dish here in Egypt made of half cooked dough, nuts and raisins. I cant help but thin that every time someone would call me Om Ali i would have 2 think of this and smile.
But in anyway ill not name him Ali as i dont like the Name that much, and still we didnt find a good Name.
My husband suggested Salahuddin..not bad but does anyone use this name nowadays in egypt? I have no idea about it but i dont wanna give my baby a name that will cause other kids 2 make fun of him :S
Muhammad is nice but id prefer something more unique thats not so popular but still sounds good and is accepted in society..a hard task i guess

pics pics pics

The first one is in City Stars :)
2nd Christmas decoration in germany ( by my mummy)
3rd on a parking place near city stars

very hungry

Iam hungryyy :S
I just ate a lot last night, though only healthy stuff, and still im so hungry.
In the morning i couldnt fall asleep again bcz i was so hungry but i was 2 lazy 2 get up n cook something.
Now i just took 1,5 hours 2 make 2 different kinds of rice but all i want is CHOCOLATE!
But my lovly husband refused yesterday 2 go out n get it 4 me ( thats ur job, iam pregnant after all :P)
So my last hope is 2 get chocolate 2day, i just cant get enough of that stuff.
And the best about it is i can eat as much as i want since im supposed 2 gainsome weight and i didnt gain anything til now..Sometimes its great 2 be pregnant :)

Really bad Day!

A really bad one :S
On saturday i actually had 2 get up at 5am 2 eat so that i could go 2 he lab 4 the bloodtest at 11am ( u gotta fast 6 hours 4 that)
Anyway i didnt hear the alarm on my mobile and woke at 8.30am
After eating andomi(some kinda pasta with soup) and some bread i didnt felt good at all. Appearently my stomach doesnt think andomi is good 4 breakfast. The rest of the day i had problems with my stomach :(
We went 2 the lab at 4pm ( after 7 hours fasting)
There i got 2 know that i have 2 make a complete blood test not only the sugar one.
So they had 2 take my blood :S
I thought they would just do this test where they use ur finger..
Im really scared of taking blood, 2 a point that i get really dizzy and feel bad when i have 2 do it ( just bcz of my psychology, i know it doesnt hurt that bad in reality)
I was near 2 decide 2 leave it and go but than i just changed my mind and let the nurse do it.
It wasnt that bad as the times in germany. At least after that i could eat again.
And after some time went 2 Nasr city/city stars 4 shopping. Even we didnt buy anything bcz the baby things i like are wether 4 girls or boys n not unisex.
But after we left city stars i realized i lost my mobile so we searched it in the car and as we didnt find it my husband called my number.
A male person took the call and told us 2 come to haram 2 meet him and get it back.
Its not really near 2 city stars but alhamdulilah we got there quite fast.
Anyhow after searching and calling him several times 2 find where exactly he is, we met him and got it back, alhamdulillah.
I thoutght i really will never see my mobil eagain and i just got it 2 weeks ago.

Babynames???

Ok so iam trying 2 find a good name 4 the baby ( though we still dont know if its a boy or a girl)
But it doesnt seem 2 be so important 2 my husband as he believes im gonna dream about the name one night and ill just know it..
Am so not so sure about this, and id prefer 2 have Names set just in case anything happens.
The problem is that id love 2 have 2 names, one arabic and 1 nordic name
For example Fares Killian
But my husband says the egyptian offices wont allow it 2 give the baby 2 names as in this case killian would be seem as the name of the father :(
Ill have 2 figure this out bcz im gonna get the birth certificate from the german embassy so our baby will have the german nationality inshallah.

Here r some names i like and my husband doesnt dislike
girls:
Alina = Beautiful.
Alayna = Princess (Iranian) Upon (Arabic)
Light (From the Greek word Helena)
Aleenam = Silk of heaven.
Alaia = Virtuous
Ana = Prestige, self respect.
Meymona = Good Fortune.
Mina = light
Minal = Gift, achievement.
Munira = Light, sunshine.
Naira (shinning, glittering)
Saira = Happy

boys:
Ilyas- A Prophet's name.
Faraz-Ascent, height.
iyad
Aazim -Male Determined

Which of the names do u like best?

Back in Egypt

So am back in egypt :)
The journey was better than going there but still not great.
After spending new years night with my mum n uncle i went 2 bed at 1 am just 2 get up again at 5am 2 get ready.
At 6am my uncle came back 2 drive me 2 the airport ( 180km).
My flight from hamburg 2 prague was from 9.15 am until 10.40 am
When we reached parg the pilot gave us the information that we have no permission 2 land there and we have 2 wait 4 further information..not very nice 2 hear this when u r in a plane.
When the plane finally went down we all could see what was the problem.
It was so foggy that u couldnt even see the lights of the tower.
Alhamdulillah the pilot was great and got us down without any problems, but it still was scary.
After the flight i heard that some ppl in the plane even prayed bcz they were so scared:S

After that i had 2 stay at the airport until 9.40pm when my flight took of to cairo.
It just started 2 snow when the plane took off :)
Alhamdulillah i arrived cairo at 2.30am and needed about 20 min 2 get through the checks
The really opend my bag :S
The guy even asked me 2 lift my 19kg bag up so he could open it, but i clearly told him i cant lift it up!
Anyway after the normal rude behaviour of the airport stuff i finally got to go back home :)